“Only Those Who Care About You Can Hear You When You’re Quiet.”

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“Only those who care about you can hear you when you’re quiet.”

This is the first countdown Blog to the New Year going into 2016. Starting today, Monday, Dec 28th until Friday, January 1st I will be posting some nuggets from 2015 with the hopes that you will be either inspired or reflective as it pertains to your own life.
As I get older, the circle of genuine friendships becomes smaller. I know to say “smaller” has a different interpretation for different people, but whatever that number is, you will receive a different response from every friend pertaining to your need in that friendship.
There will not be one friend that will fulfill every area of your life.
I repeat…
There will not be one friend that will fulfill every area of your life.
Just like a mentor for your professional life may not necessary be the same mentor for your spiritual life.
So as soon as I took the pressure off of myself from thinking this way, I saved myself a lot of disappointment.
But one thing that is common in every person I call friend is their ability to hear my silence. Some will pick up on it immediately and some may take longer, and it’s not that they don’t care, but depending on their life and their level of responsibility, their response time may be different. In the big scheme of things, response time has to be put in perspective. What I want you to think about is if that friend or friends in your circle that know the difficult season of life you are in and they don’t reach at all. Even after a face to face or phone conversation, they never ask you how you are doing or what’s going on in that situation. How do you feel about the difficult situation(s) in your life?
It may sound minute, but I promise you, it goes a very long way in any relationship. Most people do not like to expose their vulnerabilities, hurt or pains in life. Even some of the most encouraging people to others find it best to ‘suffer in silence’ because hey, every strong person should never have ‘weak’ moments, huh? Yeah right! That’s the biggest misconception…
So, if this person you call friend is silent. It means something. And most of the time, the silence is attached to pain….and if they say it’s not, you will know if you claim to have a close relationship with this person. One that includes the spirit which discerns truth and can reveal hurt through the most convincing smile.
Now, examine who you call friend…and think, when was the last time you ‘heard’ from any of your friends…what was their response to your victory and pain in life? Are they non responsive to your victory? (Don’t answer that….that’s a WHOLE DIFFERENT BLOG!!!!—haha!) but seriously….to your pain or your ‘silence’ are they non responsive? Think about that and adjust accordingly…

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2 thoughts on ““Only Those Who Care About You Can Hear You When You’re Quiet.”

    December 28, 2015 at 8:58 pm

    Great post! In fact, I could probably write articles on this subject as I’m sure you can. I mean extend that to family and you’ll get same responses… The truth is that when you are alone (with God ) you discover the truth of the only true friendship.

    I’m a giver and I can truly count my true friends in one hand. In general, people want to be around for the good times and run during your bad times. The sadness is tbey need to realize that they too will fall on bad times and want some real love during that time.

    The worse quality to not have is empathy with compassion.

    Pray for your enemies to be removed from your life and watch what happens. Abundant blessings, Emma

      chiccybaritone responded:
      December 29, 2015 at 3:04 pm

      Thank you Emma! Yes, you have a great point…it can be extended to include family as well:-o) I appreciate your comment. I don’t want to sound like a broken record but I can relate to so much you are saying and I agree! God Bless!

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